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dragonjournal) wrote2012-07-18 11:39 am
dragonjournal) wrote2012-07-18 11:39 am
A very rare personal post
I very rarely bring in my real life here. I have other blogs for that. This is my creativity blog, where I talk about writing and cross stitching and things that help me with that.
However, this is also read by more people, and I want to vent.
Here is the story:
In March 2007, my divorce from my second husband was finalized. He was ordered to pay $178 per month in child support. Since March of '07, I've received $84.37 (in November '08). As of the beginning of this month the arrears are: $11,048.01
I know that in the grand scheme of things, that isn't a lot. However, it would help us desperately. Even an extra $100 a month would be a god send at this point.
However, I'm angry.
Why am I angry? Because the children will never see any of that money. Ever. Because even though I have kept up with my obligation to track him down and hand over information to child support, they can't verify his address, and if they do, he miraculously comes up with a doctor's letter stating he cannot work. And he has been doing this for years.
According to child support, there's not a damned thing they can do. They've suspended his license. Well, as long as I've known him, he hasn't had one.
He doesn't work. I found him recently, because he was arrested for assault and now has a parole officer, who is obligated to talk to child support.
So, now they can confirm where he lives, but nothing else will be done. And there's nothing they can do.
I'm tired of this.
My ex has nothing to do with the children. There's never any attempt at contact unless I initiate it, and I've give up trying because my daughter flat out said she didn't want to talk to him because she had me and her brother and he obviously didn't want them.
Now, she was ten at the time, but I've acceded to her wishes to stop trying to forge a relationship between the three of them. Not just because of her wishes, but also because of the strain it puts on my own mental health.
Basically, this man has nothing to do with any children, except his eldest son, because that boy still gets SSI, I believe.
Frankly, there's something broken in the system and I don't know what to do about it. Or even where to start.
This is utterly ridiculous. He's gaming the system and getting around his obligation. Never mind the moral obligation he has to the children.
I hope karma bites him in the ass.
However, this is also read by more people, and I want to vent.
Here is the story:
In March 2007, my divorce from my second husband was finalized. He was ordered to pay $178 per month in child support. Since March of '07, I've received $84.37 (in November '08). As of the beginning of this month the arrears are: $11,048.01
I know that in the grand scheme of things, that isn't a lot. However, it would help us desperately. Even an extra $100 a month would be a god send at this point.
However, I'm angry.
Why am I angry? Because the children will never see any of that money. Ever. Because even though I have kept up with my obligation to track him down and hand over information to child support, they can't verify his address, and if they do, he miraculously comes up with a doctor's letter stating he cannot work. And he has been doing this for years.
According to child support, there's not a damned thing they can do. They've suspended his license. Well, as long as I've known him, he hasn't had one.
He doesn't work. I found him recently, because he was arrested for assault and now has a parole officer, who is obligated to talk to child support.
So, now they can confirm where he lives, but nothing else will be done. And there's nothing they can do.
I'm tired of this.
My ex has nothing to do with the children. There's never any attempt at contact unless I initiate it, and I've give up trying because my daughter flat out said she didn't want to talk to him because she had me and her brother and he obviously didn't want them.
Now, she was ten at the time, but I've acceded to her wishes to stop trying to forge a relationship between the three of them. Not just because of her wishes, but also because of the strain it puts on my own mental health.
Basically, this man has nothing to do with any children, except his eldest son, because that boy still gets SSI, I believe.
Frankly, there's something broken in the system and I don't know what to do about it. Or even where to start.
This is utterly ridiculous. He's gaming the system and getting around his obligation. Never mind the moral obligation he has to the children.
I hope karma bites him in the ass.